People leave!!! People come and go as they please, this is a fact and the earlier we accept this the better. Nothing lasts forever, not even happiness. I always advise that you live in the moment, enjoy, and cherish times spent with loved ones but most importantly to recognize when it’s all over and know how and when to move on. Dwelling might seem like you are getting some respite but sometimes “the only way is the way through”, so you must pick yourself up and move on.
Moving on is another topic to discuss, people handle this differently. Some hang on to the memories and reminisce endlessly on how things used to be while others “rip the band-aid off” quickly by severing all ties and pushing all memories aside to make it easier for them to handle the loss. It is ultimately like a grieving and coping process for them. No matter how you want to handle or deal with it, people’s involvement in our lives is always finite and just living by this simple notion can make our lives a lot easier.
I won’t personalize this experience because almost every one of us has been walked out on before and for those that haven’t experienced it yet, “brace yourselves for impact”, I would say. Different chapters of our lives force us to reevaluate our relationships or friendships. I liken it to “shedding old skin”, we are forced to, even if we really don’t want to. We might not have a choice than to drop some old friends or just be physically or emotionally unavailable based on our current circumstances. This is not to say, you shouldn’t invest your time and emotions into building long-lasting friendships, this is me saying “play your part in their lives, enjoy the moments, create beautiful stories” because great friendships and relationships are the fundamental ingredient to leading a beautiful life.
I would judge how well I think I have lived by the number of lives I have touched, the number of people I have impacted positively and the number of people who could tell a story, not just any story but an intriguing one of how I came into their lives when they least expected it, or when they needed friendship, companionship, or just when they needed a shoulder to lean on the most. I currently have few friends, but my magic is not in numbers but in the quality of the friendships I build and try to maintain. I am blessed to have my friends and I would say they are equally fortuitous to have me.
So, are you struggling today with a loss that you think you can’t overcome? A heartbreak that has left your world crumbling? Or just someone whose impact in your life hit a crescendo and then the person just disappeared? You can share how you feel in the comments section and how you have dealt with it so far. We all can help one another heal the wounds left behind or try to fill that void that is all so overwhelming now.